I went to Alero on U street the other night and while I was sitting at the bar waiting for my homegirl, an older man walked up to me and starting talking. Now I was in a good mood that night so I wasn’t going to be rude; I have no problem having a conversation with someone. The older guy asked if I had a boyfriend, and I lied and said yes. Most men would’ve walked away after that, but not this one. He even told me if we ever went out for drinks and I got tipsy, I could stay at his place around the corner!! WHAT??!!
And this isn’t the first time I’ve been approached by an older guy. The metro is a great place for bus drivers and business men to approach you and give you their number. To be clear, older doesn’t mean 30 years old. We’re talking about 40+. I like to call them “old enough to be my dad or an uncle.” GROSS!
Now according to the Clutch Magazine article The Politics of Dating Older Men, today’s Black 20-something female digs older men. Well I DON’T!!! What am I going to have in common with someone who was born when Motown was running the music industry? While he wants to two step I’m still trying to drop it low.
I don’t know what it is about older men chasing us 20-something year old women; well yea I do, they want some arm candy and think 20-something women are seeking older, more mature men. While mature and level headed is nice, do I really look like I want to date a 45 year old man? Seriously…I’m not the one!
Where are the male 20 something year olds? I know there are some good looking, mature, intelligent men closer to my age! Why can’t I seek their attention? Well the better question to ask is, why can’t I seem to find 20 something year olds I’m attracted to? I get attention from men of my generation, but I’m still seeking that mutual attraction.
They say “age is just a number.” I’ll agree with that statement in terms of mentality. If you’re an older man but feel young, that’s great, but that doesn’t mean all of us 20 something year olds want to talk to you because you think you can keep up! Jay-Z said 30’s is the new 20, not 40, 50, and 60.
What about you? Would you date a guy 15+years your senior?