I’m a flirt and a lot of guys I know are flirts too, so it’s only natural that with some people that would be the basis of your friendship. But what makes things complicated is when feelings get involved. Now I had flirted FOREVER with a friend of mine, but unfortunately after a while I did catch feelings. But like most guys I know, he was just having a good time. He has a lot of females friends, likes to flirt with a lot of people; that’s just who he is.
So after learning all of that, I removed myself from hanging out with him for a little bit so I could detox myself of those feelings and move on. And I was doing great for the last couple of months until I caught myself caring again. It mattered if he was paying me any attention and it mattered if we flirted again because we had started to do so. I was doing so well moving forward and then I took 2 steps backward…SMDH
Of course after much discussion with close friends about the situation and what I truly deserve, why should I even care? I deserve a lot more than I receive so why do I even put up with it? I blame myself because I know I’m better than this. I often think that I have to keep this person around or act this way because he starts the flirting or we have the same friends. But obviously that’s not the case. We may just have to be acquaintances and hang out from a distance, if at all.
Flirting is always fun, but it can be dangerous once feelings get involved. So I proved to myself that while I thought I was over this person, there may be some feelings still there and that’s a PROBLEM. My emotions and what I allow to get to me are things I am continuously working on.
What is the best way to REALLY get over someone??? Do I stop talking and hanging out completely? It sucks because we have the same friends and live in the same area, but something’s gotta give. I’m ready to get back on track and keep taking those steps forward.